Before you make a wish, do you know what you want?
In fact, if I were to ask you what you really want, could you answer me?
Do you know, for instance…
…what you want most out of intimate relationships?
…what you value most through your work?
…what you want most out of your money?
Do you know…
…where you really want to go on vacation?
…what you want to do with your time on the planet?
…what would really, really make you happy?
Most women I know, don’t. Not really.
In fact, it usually startles them for me to even ask.
And yet – if you don’t know what you want, how will you know what to aim for?
Better yet, how will you know when you get it?
See, here’s the deal.
Most people live unconsciously. That’s just the truth.
They get up. Go to work. Go home. Eat supper. Watch TV. Go to bed.
Rinse and repeat.
But you want more than that, don’t you?
Even if you’re not sure what, you just want…
Well – More.
Don’t shrug that off. It matters.
Having a deep desire for more in your life means you are alive, that you live in an abundant Universe, and that you know it.
Having a deep desire for more in your life means you want to embrace all that life has to offer in its fullest capacity.
And isn’t that a wonderful thing?
And when you have more, feel more, contribute more, live more -
- you can give more, too.
So here’s a tool for you.
Here’ s a way to figure out What You Want.
Make yourself a Vision Board.
Images are powerful. Creating and gazing at images of what we love, enjoy, value, treasure, and desire is one of the best things we can do to create that reality in our life.
Because once you get really clear on what your heart desires, the Universe has a way of rearranging itself to help you manifest that desire in your life.
Don’t believe me? That’s okay.
Humor me. Try it anyway.
Because in this strange little experiment that is my life,
I have discovered that magic is more fun than proof.
- Christine Kane
I recently led a workshop in Knoxville, Tennessee where I taught folks how to do this. It’s easy.
A Journal, Notebook or Sketchbook: You’ll need a place where you can daydream on paper.
Poster Board: Some people use the full sized poster boards, but I think that’s too much. It can feel like pressure to have to ‘fill up’ all that space. So I like smaller sizes. In fact, 11×17 seems about right to me. White is fine. So is black. Or hot pink. Use the colors that work for you.
Scissors & Glue: A good pair of scissors will cut easily and cleanly. You can buy craft glue that won’t clump up and make your photos soggy, but simple glue sticks work just fine.
Decorations: At a minimum, you’ll want to grab some different colored Sharpies or other good markers. If you’re an especially creative type, you may also enjoy using some fun decorative Items like glitter, sequins, stickers, or other embellishments.
Music: Nice background music, generally instrumental, can help quiet the clutter in your mind, so that deeper desires and images rise to the surface.
Magazines: You need a collection of magazines that you can rip and tear to shreds. :) Ideally you’ll want to gather an assortment of different kinds, everything from Car & Driver to National Geographic to Oprah to Cooking Light. The more variety you have, the better, whether they’re mags you would read, or not.
There are many ways to go about this process. I’ve seen it done in a 2 hour session at the kitchen table with construction paper as a background. And I’ve seen it done over a period of months, a gradual evolution that builds up to a pull-it-all-together moment.
In whatever way works for you, here’s your basic steps.
ONE: Collect images.
Go through the magazines.Tear out pages that have anything that appeals to you. It might be an image (a cute guy, a sweet baby, or that kayak you’ve been dreaming about).
It might be words or phrases.
(My fave? “Miracles don’t happen overnight. Sometimes they take an entire weekend.”)
Don’t stop at this point to think about why a particular item appeals to you. Just grab it, and stash it. You can do this all at one sitting, or over a period of time. I’ve done it both ways.
One note of caution: resist the temptation to lean too heavily on words. Your brain recognizes images at a deep level. Give it plenty to dream about. :)
TWO: Go inside.
Before you put your Board together, take some time to go inside. Inside your head, that is. Put on some of that thoughtful, beautiful background music. Pick up a pen. Think about who you want to be in the world, how you want to show up. Think about what you want to do, what you want to have.
Allow your mind to wander. No judgment! No criticism or self censorship. If you really, really, in your heart of hearts want to be able to buy a villa in Northern Italy, then write that down.
If you dream of being the CEO of a Fortune 500 Company, or your state’s first female U.S. Senator, put that down.
If what you long for is peace, calm, or clarity, put that down.
If you want to be crazy, ridiculously over-the-top, wealthy, put that down, too.
THREE: Sort, toss and trim.
Now, go back through your stash. Throw out anything that no longer speaks to you.
Take what’s left, and trim it up with a pair of scissors.
Play with the images you now have. Lay them out on your board. What seems to fit where? What goes together? What tells a story? What lifts your spirits just to look at it?
And what needs to be right at the center of it all? My friend Deb says you should put your own picture in the middle.
Couldn’t hurt, right?
Once you have everything placed the way that feels right, glue it all down. Then, if you want, use your sharpies or markers to mark things in ways that mean something to you. This is where the creatives among you can add your stars and sequins if you like.
Put it up somewhere that YOU will see it everyday. That could be on your office door, in your closet, on your bathroom wall. Then, take time to engage with it daily. Look at it. Study it. Enjoy it. Allow yourself to feel the good feelings it brings up for you. Imagine each image being a part of your life as if it were already true.
Now – step back and notice what comes. Be willing to follow the threads of new opportunities and ideas even when you can’t always tell where they lead.
Without even knowing it, you’re well on your way to creating what you want.
Now that you know what that is. :))
So what about you? Have you tried this before? What was your experience like? Let me know in the comments below!
Photo Credits: Martin Fisch, Nanette Saylor on Flickr